First of all, congratulations, if the idea of saving money for the future has knocked at your door. There aren’t many people like you. Interest rates are steeping low, and consumerism has taken a place in the heart of Americans as their favorite pastime.
Chances are your partner or spouse doesn’t believe in your views on penny-pinching. Everyone around is purchasing new houses, planning vacations while bragging about their latest purchases. It may seem that the situation is fine, but actually, it isn’t.
People have developed a habit of spending more than their income. There is no doubt that this is a problem, but making your better half understand its depth is a whole other story.
But if you want to make a financial safety net and gather a good amount for retirement, it is next to impossible without their support. Let us help you convince them to save money mutually.
Be In Their Shoes
There are many couples who discuss spending like a battle. One person wants to shield their right to live life to the fullest and spend money from time-to-time, whereas, the other only sees the future.
This is a continuous loop running round-and-round all the time with couples. Whenever one freaks out over a small purchase, the other, who is just trying to be practical say some things that are hurtful to the partner, making it more difficult to agree in the end. That’s quite a situation.
So in order to have a successful conversation with your partner about spending, you need to be in their shoes first. Try to find the reason why they feel the necessity to spend money like they do. The primary motive of this step is to show that you understand and sympathize so that to make them put down their battle suit and actually talk to you about it.
Aim at the Benefits
Believe us, there’s no trick to make your spouse think that avoiding the habit of consumerism will make things easy and comfortable. They will have to alter their whole mindset, and then try to give up the amenities they’ve grown the habit of, such as a 3 story house, an extra vehicle, and an annual vacation, to name a few. You are aware of the fact that this comes under the tab of unfortunate necessities in today’s economy.
Now imagine this. During retirement, the costs associated with your joint health care could run several hundred thousand dollars. Your Social Security funds are running out with each passing day. Even if you have stashed away some money, it’s probably doesn’t come close enough to take you through retirement.
But spewing out stats like these aren’t likely to make your spouse enthusiastic. It’s a scare tactic and the chances are that they might respond poorly. So don’t focus on the reason why to save money for long-term survival.
Instead, you should aim at the benefits, including:
- If we get out of our debt, imagine how much we’ll save on interest which we can use for something enjoyable.
- How much effortless it would be to sustain maintenance on a smaller home.
- We will have spare money to help our kids in case they need help.
- Just think what we can do in our retirement years if we save the funds.
- If we tackle all of our financial obligations while we’re younger, we can retire somewhere exotic.
- We can live our life easily after retirement as we won’t need to rely on the kids for support, ending up in a retirement home.
Follow Your Preachings
If you don’t have your own hunger for consumption on a tight leash, you’re not all set to convince your spouse about the benefits savings. Some financial advisors recommend that couples should make goals together, but when you lead by example, there are more chances of inflicting a positive impact on your partner.
Focus more on yourself as well as your relationship before asking for financial severity. For example, you can
- Work out more
- Improve the diet
- Downsize your own stuff
- Get your financial accounts all sorted out
- Decrease debt on your credit card
- Spend more time with your children and spouse
- Involve yourself in those activities that are important for your partner
The whole story of pursuing these things is that if you haven’t already stepped up your game personally, it will be hard to convince your spouse that they can too. Especially since everybody around you believes in staying happy in this alternate reality.
Keep in Mind, It’s a Process
Deserting a life of consumerism can prove to be beneficial in a lot of ways. Having fewer things on hand makes it easy for you to live your life in a less complicated way while opening up various opportunities to gain better experiences in the long run. But true minimalism demands serious discipline. Maybe your spouse will feel reluctant to say “yes” when it comes to saving because they might have an idea that they can never live up to your standards.
But every step taken by your spouse in the right direction helps. You must ensure they understand the fact that you don’t expect them to reinvent themselves as well as their spending habits at once. The habit of consumerism is something you choose, just like you have chosen the debt you attained from it.
So keep your head straight and turn yourself into a leader. Show your admiration for whatever efforts your better half puts forward to save money, as this positive support will help you accomplish the mission of saving together.